NEWS: Divorcing with dignity: How modern exes are treating a split as an awakening By Zosia Bielski of Globe and Mail

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ARTICLE EXCERPT BY ZOSIA BIELSKI:

“Some 41 per cent of marriages will dissolve before the 30th anniversary, according to Statistics Canada data from 2008, the last year the agency collected divorce information.

Even as Canadians live longer and struggle to maintain long-term monogamous unions, many have been rethinking how they want to end those unions.”

“Today, many of these exes are actively trying to drop the antagonistic timbre of separation. They’re choosing collaborative divorce and hiring mediators to avoid adversarial litigation and high court costs. They’re seeking out specialized therapists, divorce coaches and “divorce doulas” to calm the waters.”

Read about one couple’s experience of moving from marriage through divorce to an amicable, kind, and healthy co-parenting relationship:

The exes (Max Quijano and Kristin Taylor) had an enviably amicable divorce. They separated in 2008 after five years of marriage: The fighting (plus having little in common) was making them profoundly unhappy. Taylor resisted the split initially, clinging to “some imaginary perfect life.” A stint in therapy helped her understand they’d survive a divorce: “He’s a good dad. I’m a good mom. We make a terrible couple.”

Quijano moved out but returned to the family home every morning to see his son and daughter off to daycare, picking them up in the afternoons.

Read more about their story and the full article from Zosia Bielski of the Globe and Mail: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/splitting-with-dignity-how-some-former-couples-are-treating-divorce-as-an-awakening/article30573608/